I want to say Hi I am a recovering co-dependent.
With the help of the program and program friends, I learned that as a
recovering co-dependent
that my amends should never be a continuation of feeding false guilt, false
shame.
But rather a tool for the removal of guilt and shame, whether real or
imagined.
And when the time comes, a wonderful bridge builder.
Some of the steps to this for me is having forgiven myself and the one I owe
amends too.
And, for me, it is a confession, not an assignment of blame to the one I am
hoping to amend the relationship with.
Also, it is best for me to let go of outcomes as to what the response may
be.
We can only do our best.
It takes courage, creativity, good judgment, and timing. And a bit of
practice in the beginning. Written and verbal.
After some time, the practice part isn't as necessary, for me, as I learn to
trust myself.
And it is after this step, that the Promises of the Program begin to take
hold in my experience. love Deb
The Twelve Promises of Families Anonymous
1. We are going to know a freedom from worry and a new happiness.
2. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
3. We will comprehend the word serenity.
4. We will know peace.
5. No matter what we've been through, we will see how our experiences can
benefit others.
6. Those feelings of resentment and self-pity will disappear.
7. We will loose interest in trying to change others and gain an
appreciation for those special
people in our lives.
8. Self righteousness will slip away.
9. Our attitude and outlook on life will change.
10. Fear of other people's opinions and our insecurities will leave us.
11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle
us.
12. We will come to realize that God is doing for us what we could not do
for ourselves.
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