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Self pity
Posted On 05/28/2008 08:35:04
I believe that the addiction and codependancy are drenched with victimhood and self-pity.
In fact, I believe those to be two of the main symptoms, as well as big obstacles to recovery. I caught myself this morning going into victim/self-pity mode. It doesn't take long to get from 0 to 100 with that way of thinking. It started with:
"my house is a mess,  have to get my son ready for school, I work full time and there never seems to be enough time for anything.. I'm tired. I'm exhausted emotionally Day in Day out same thing. Same routine and where is my ex husband ?? Finally they got him.. JAIL ..Probably still Getting high.. . I look at years and years in the future of the same problems. "  Time for a gratitude check!!! Time for some one-on-one with my HP!
Victimhood has it's payoffs, but they aren't the kind  I want. Self-pity leads to excuses and excuses gets me in the stuck mode.  I'm going to throw out a challenge for anyone who cares to join me. I'm going to observe my thinking today to identify ways I stay in victimhood and self-pity. Calling myself on my own BS is healthy.
 

252 AA Slogans
Posted On 05/16/2008 11:53:32

  • 252 Slogans- AA

  1. first things first
  2. live and let live
  3. but for the grace of god
  4. think......think.......think
  5. one day at time
  6. let go and let god
  7. kiss---keep it simple stupid
  8. act as if.........
  9. this too shall pass
  10. expect miracles
  11. i can't .........he can..........i think i'll let him (steps 1,2,3)
  12. if it works.........don't fix it
  13. keep coming back..........it works if you work it
  14. stick with the winners
  15. keep right size
  16. sobriety is a journey ..........not a destination
  17. faith without works is dead
  18. poor me.....poor me............pour me another drink
  19. to thine own self be true
  20. I came;I came to;I came to believe (steps 1,2,3)
  21. live in the NOW
  22. if god seems far away, who moved ?
  23. turn it over
  24. aa=altered attitudes
  25. nothing is so bad, a drink won't make it worse
  26. we are only as sick as our secrets
  27. there are no coincidences in aa
  28. be part of the solution,not the problem
  29. sponsors: have one-----use one-----be one
  30. I can't handle it god; you take over
  31. keep an open mind
  32. it works -------it really does ! (page 88,line 8 in the big book)
  33. willingness is the key
  34. more will be revealed
  35. you will intuitively know
  36. you will be amazed
  37. no pain.........no gain
  38. go for it
  39. keep the plug in the jug
  40. do it sober
  41. let it begin with me
  42. just for today
  43. sober `n` crazy
  44. pass it on
  45. it's in the book
  46. you either is-------or you ain't
  47. before you say: i can't ............say i'll try
  48. don't quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens
  49. some of us our sicker than others
  50. we're all here because we're not all there
  51. alcoholism is an equal opportunity destroyer
  52. practice an attitude of gratitude
  53. the road to sobriety is a simple journey for confused people with a complicated disease
  54. another friend of bill w.'s
  55. god is never late
  56. have a good day unless of course u have made other plans
  57. decisions aren't forever
  58. it takes time
  59. 90 meetings in 90 days.........90/90
  60. you are not alone
  61. where you go .......there you are
  62. don't drink,read the big book,and go to meetings
  63. use the 24-hour plan
  64. make use of the telephone therapy
  65. stay sober for yourself
  66. look for similarities rather than differences
  67. remember your last drunk
  68. remember that alcoholism is incurable,progressive, and fatal
  69. try not place conditions on your sobriety
  70. when all else fails, follow directions
  71. count your blessings
  72. share your happiness
  73. respect the anonymity of others
  74. share your pain
  75. let go of old ideas
  76. try to replace guilt with gratitude
  77. what goes around, comes around
  78. change is a process, not an event
  79. take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth
  80. call your sponsor before, not after, you take the first drink
  81. sick and tired of being sick and tired
  82. it's the first drink that gets you drunk
  83. to keep it, you have to give it away
  84. man's extremity is god's opportunity
  85. the price for serenity and sanity is self-sacrifice
  86. one alcoholic talking to another...........one equals one
  87. take what you can use and leave the rest
  88. what if........
  89. yeah but.........
  90. if only.........
  91. help is only a phone call away
  92. around aa or in aa ?
  93. you can't give away what you don't have
  94. one drink is too many and thousand not enough
  95. keep coming back---kcb
  96. anger is but one letter away from danger
  97. courage to change
  98. easy does it,but do it
  99. bring the body and the mind will follow
  100. accept your admission
  101. remember when............
  102. dry and tighten up (financially)
  103. we AAs are 'gifted' people
  104. there are 12 steps in the ladder of complete sobriety
  105. fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed
  106. before engaging your mouth,put your mind in gear!
  107. i want what i want when i want it
  108. there is no chemical solution to a spiritual problem
  109. aa is not something you join,it's a way of life
  110. we can be positive that our drinking was negative
  111. spirituality is the ability to get our minds off ourselves
  112. faith is spelled ...............a-c-t-i-o-n
  113. backsliding begins when knee-bending stops
  114. if i think,i won't drink. if i drink,i can't think
  115. bend your knees before you bend your elbow
  116. the first step in overcoming mistakes is to admit them
  117. formula for failure: try to please everyone
  118. sorrow is looking back,worry is looking around
  119. willpower= our will-ingness to use a higher power
  120. aa is an education without graduation
  121. when your head begins to swell your mind stops growing
  122. a journey of a 1,000 miles begins with the first step
  123. god=good orderly direction
  124. be as enthusiastic about aa as you were about your drinking
  125. you received without cost,now give without charge
  126. humility is our acceptance of ourselves
  127. trying to pray is praying
  128. get it ---give it---grow in it
  129. faith is not belief without proof but trust without reservation
  130. we're responsible for the effort not the outcome
  131. this is a selfish program
  132. ego=edge god out
  133. keep your sobriety first to make it last
  134. i drank: too much---too often---too long
  135. aa will work if you want it to work
  136. minds are like parachutes----they won't work unless they're open
  137. what you hear and see here,stays here
  138. alcoholism is the only disease that tells you you're all right
  139. if you turn it over and don't let go of it,you will be upside down.
  140. an aa meeting is where losers get together to talk about their winnings
  141. aa is a school in which we are all learners and all teachers
  142. god taught us to laugh again but god please don't let us forget that we once cried
  143. serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm
  144. aa may not solve all your problems but it is willing to share them
  145. it isn't the load that weighs us down------it's the way we carry it
  146. principles before personalities
  147. when u do all the talking you only learn what you already know
  148. the 7t's ---take time to think the thing through
  149. there are none too dumb for the aa program but many are too smart
  150. we all have another drunk left in us but we don't know if we have another recovery in us
  151. to be forgiven we must forgive
  152. when we surrender to our higher power, the journey begins
  153. the person with the most sobriety at a meeting is the one who got up earliest that morning
  154. knowledge of "the answers" never made anyone slip---it was failing to practice "the answers" known
  155. h.a.l.t.=don't get too hungry(h).......or too angry(a)......or too lonely(l) ........or too tire(t)
  156. fear stands for Frustration
      Ego,
      Anxiety,
      Resentment
  157. the 12 steps tell us how it works; the 12 traditions tell us why it works.........
  158. aa won't ...........keep you from going to hell.............nor is it a ticket to heaven............but it will...........keep u sober long enough.........for you to make up your mind...............which way you want to go!
  159. if faith without works is dead; then .........willingness without action is fantasy
  160. when a person tries to control their drinking they have already lost control
  161. the task ahead of us is never as great as the power behind us
  162. seven days without an aa meeting makes one WEAK
  163. you are not required to like it, you're only required to DO IT
  164. when wallowing in your self-pity ...... get off the cross we need the wood
  165. we in aa don't carry the alcoholic; we carry the message
  166. the results are in god's hand
  167. we are not human beings having spiritual experiences; we are spiritual beings having human experiences
  168. remember nothing is going to happen today that you and god can't handle
  169. when man listens,god speaks; when man obeys,god works
  170. don't watch the "slippers" but watch those who don't slip closely and watch them go through difficulties and pull through
  171. the 3 t's of gratitude to repay aa for our sobriety: our time, our talent, our treasure
  172. it's a pity we can't forget our troubles the same way we forget our blessings
  173. be careful what you pray for; you're liable to get it
  174. the time to attend a meeting is when you least feel like going
  175. work the program from the waist up
  176. aa is the highest priced club in the world.........if u have paid the dues, why not enjoy the benefits ?
  177. the first step is the only step a person can work perfectly
  178. the will of god will never take you where the grace of god will not protect you
  179. your big book is your sponsor too
  180. aa never opened the gates of heaven to let me in, aa did open the gates of hell to let me out
  181. the only thing we take from this world when we leave is what we gave away
  182. time wasted in getting even can never be used in getting ahead
  183. some people are so successful in aa that they turn out to be almost as good as they used to think they were when they were drinking
  184. sobriety delivers everything alcohol promised
  185. possibilities and miracles are one in the same
  186. get out of the driver's seat.......let go and let god
  187. how==honesty,open-mindedness,and willingness
  188. danger sign: when your eyes have wandered from the alcoholics who still suffers and needs help-----to the faults of those whom the program has already helped
  189. first we stayed sober because we have to............
    then we stay sober because we are willing to..........
    finally we stay sober because we want to.............
  190. slogans are wisdom written in shorthand
  191. active alcoholics don't have relationships; they take hostages
  192. everyday is a gift that is why we call it the present
  193. if you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere
  194. every recovery from alcoholism began with one sober hour
  195. each and every alcoholic----sober or not----teaches us some valuable lessons about ourselves and recovery
  196. we had to quit playing god
  197. don't compare---identify
  198. don't intellectualize----utilize
  199. RULE 62----don't take yourself so darn seriously!!!!!!!
  200. aa has a wrench to fit every nut that walks through a meeting room door
  201. living in the here and now
  202. how does one become an "old-timer" ? don't drink and don't die!
  203. aa spoils your drinking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  204. faith is our greatest gift; its sharing with others our greatest responsibility
  205. if you want to drink-----that is your business
    if you want to quit-------that is aa 's business
  206. in a bar, we got sympathy-----as long as our money lasted.
    in aa,we get understanding------for nothing!
  207. even my worst day in sobriety is better than my best day drunk
  208. the elevator is broken-------use the steps
  209. let it begin with me
  210. when all else fails.........the directions are in the big book
  211. trust god.........clean house........help others
  212. anonymity is so important it's half of our name
  213. if we don't grow,we gotta go
  214. all you need to start your own aa meeting is a resentment and a coffee pot!!
  215. religion is for those who fear god.........spirituality is for those who have been to hell and back
  216. there are no atheists in foxholes
  217. three suggestions for making an aa speech:
    1).BE INTERESTING
    2).BE BRIEF
    3).BE SEATED
  218. when you are a sponsor, you get out of yourself. if i serve, i will be served
  219. why recovery never ends: the disease is alcoholISm, not alcoholWASM!
  220. the aa way of life is meant to be bread for daily use, not cake for special occasions
  221. the smartest thing an aa member can say is, " help me "
  222. you are exactly where god wants you to be
  223. god will never give you more than you can handle
  224. slow but sure
  225. in aa we say a "coincidence" is a miracle in which god chooses to remain anonymous
  226. it takes the good and bad aa meeting----the good and bad aa talk -----to make this fellowship "work"
  227. give time .......time
  228. faith is a lighted doorway,but trust is a dark hall
  229. the lesson i must learn is simply that my control is limited to my own behavior,my own attitudes
  230. the aa paradoxes:
    ---from weakness(adversity) comes strength
    ---we forgive to be forgiven
    ---we give it away to keep it
    ---we suffer to get well
    ---we surrender to win
    ---we die to live
    ---from darkness comes light
    ---from dependence we found independence
  231. aa works for people who believe in god
    aa works for people who don't believe in god
    aa NEVER works for people who believe they ARE god
  232. just for today i will try to live through this day only,and not tackle my whole life problems at once. i can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if i felt that i had to keep it up for a LIFETIME
  233. there are two days in every week which we have no control over----yesterday and tomorrow.today is the only day we can change.
  234. it is not the experience if today that drives people mad----it is the remorse or bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.
  235. slippers in aa use the rdp---revolving door policy
  236. pain is the touchstone of spiritual growth
  237. god has no grand kids
  238. there is a god and i am not it
  239. the road to disappointment (resentment) is paved with expectation
  240. be nice to newcomers .........one day they may be your sponsor
  241. denial is not a river in egypt !
  242. guilt is the gift that keeps on giving
  243. the flip side to forgiveness is resentments
  244. there is no magic in recovery only miracles
  245. fear is the absences of faith
  246. courage is faith that has said its prayers
  247. depression is anger toward inward
  248. alcoholics heal from the outside in.........but feel from the insideout
  249. 3 A's in aa-----affection (thoughtfulness)
    -----attention (listening)
    -----appreciation (gratitude)
  250. if it is meant to be...........i can't stop it
    if it isn't god's will ............i can't make it happen
  251. there are aa members who MAKE things happen
    there are aa members who WATCH things happen
    there are aa members who DON'T KNOW anything happen
    WHICH ARE YOU ??????

    Last but not least ---EASY  DOES  IT!!



 


Trying to be Perfect..
Posted On 05/14/2008 10:27:45

I look at myself to try to be perfect at eveything i do- working out,work, my diet, housework, budgets,bills,etc. I make sure everything is done to a tee. When i miss something  for example, I love to work out every morning. That's my drug..My cup of coffee. When i miss it in the morning. In plain english i am a b**ch. I feel so guilty..I think negative of myself.
Last  week i missed Monday-Tues-Wens- Thurs-Fri-Sun.. I felt so low on myself. This week I missed only Monday soo far. Is that normal.. I look things up alot on the computer. and it seems to be sort of a eating disorder. Is that my coping tool to use ,control bc of the chaos in my life?? Or is it my addiction??


My first appt
Posted On 05/12/2008 14:53:20

Tonight is my first appointment with my therapist !! YEAH>>I really need a push and also some guidance to look deeper into myself. I am looking forward to unloading some issues off of my back.. and start feeling good.. Not so down and depressed and negative.. It's always easier to deal with Negative than Positive.. I can't seem to get my mind focused again.. and really be Positive..

Tags: Excited


Facing Problems
Posted On 05/09/2008 08:26:02

The significant problems I  face in every day life cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them. God please help me free my mind and look at my problems differenty. Amen


Resentments
Posted On 05/06/2008 10:47:58

A resentment to me is a emotion of anger felt as a result of a real or imagined wrong done.
They manifest in many ways. Resentments are like stray cats, if I don't feed them they go away. They rob my piece of mind,dreams, and good will. They destroy my freedom of mind and hound me wherever I go. Resentments ruin my spirit. So why do I keep having them? Harboring them? Keeping them held tight.. not letting them go??
Maybe because I allow my emotions to dictate my life. Which my emotions change daily along with my moods. I pray to you god to please take away my hurt and anger and let me be free. Amen

 

Tags: Angerhurt


Happiness
Posted On 04/29/2008 13:11:38

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.We often overlook the responsibility of being happy. We enter relationships with the idea that our partner will make us happy. We believe that happiness is earned or deserved. We sometimes look to the future to bring us happiness rather than in the present. Today I will focus on being happy at this present moment. 


Old Way of Thinking
Posted On 04/28/2008 14:08:15

I find myself lately slipping back in to my old way of thinking and feeling.I usually read my morning meditation when I get to work and that seems to start my day. Lately though I just seem to dwell on the past, the sadness and hurt and try to figure out things like the choices I made in my life.For example  my son's dad is still active using.  Hasn't telephoned in a year and as I watch him growing up in front of my eyes I feel that the choices I made in life are hurting and bringing sadness to my own son. How do I get past the guilt and shame?

Tags: Sadnessguilt


Staying in the Present Moment
Posted On 01/28/2008 08:46:27
I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for the future. I will focus on what's happening now instead of what's going to happen tomorrow. -'The Language of Letting Go'

Tags: Serene




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