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Posted On: 03/30/2008 11:23:03

I am upset about not going to church, but, my cousin and her husband try to set me up with a boyfriend.  They would like to see me get married again. (going on for almost 3 years) Jimmy died almost 10 years ago.  Nine days after his death my boss lady tried to introduce me to a man.  I walked off the job that day.  Just for that day.   I have attented several churchs and it is the same, someone tries to set me up with a man.  I also stopped going to AA Meetings because of the same thing.  Something is wrong with this picture, the picture is me.  I have prayed and cried before my LORD and I still get upset with family or friends that try to control my life.  My children are not involved in this, thank GOD.



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From: lostsoul73
06/29/2008 11:22:21

I think first and foremost that you and only you knows what is best for you. When you are ready things will happen for you. In God's time. If you have attended several churches with the same outcomes, you are not in the right place. Pray for God to lead you to a church that you can be accepted AS YOU ARE, not as others want you to be.
Men do not make your life complete God does.

I know you posted this quite some time ago but hey I am a late bloomer LOL!

P.S. Thanks for the add.
Shannon

From: puddinpop
06/06/2008 16:14:59


TheNewMe63 wrote:


I go to woman's meetings mostly, just for the fact that some guys are always in my face at mixed meetings, mostly woman friends in my life today...........I lso had a hard time with hugging men and I set my boundaries with it today..........Sue C
I finally got the courage to tell my cousin to back off.  Not in those words.  I told her I was not going to her church because she (she is 75)keeps trying to set me up with a man.  I told her it is not her decision to decide what is best for me. We talked about me not dating or having a man in my life about 15 minutes. She was a little upset with me when we finally got off the phone.  I DID NOT feel guilty and for that I am truly thankful.

From: TheNewMe63
06/06/2008 15:38:07

I go to woman's meetings mostly, just for the fact that some guys are always in my face at mixed meetings, mostly woman friends in my life today...........I lso had a hard time with hugging men and I set my boundaries with it today..........Sue C

From: puddinpop
04/27/2008 09:15:33

Thanks again gurl.  Am learning my way around Recovery.  Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
GOD Bless
Puddinpop


You don't need a man to be 'complete'. I empathize with your disappointment with people's interference about where you're coming from. However, Dennis offers a good suggestion about communicating your boundary...and sticking to it. As a codependent, this is a hard thing for me to do, but it helps me with my relations with others and vice, versa.


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From: DisgruntledGurl
03/31/2008 03:53:47

You don't need a man to be 'complete'. I empathize with your disappointment with people's interference about where you're coming from. However, Dennis offers a good suggestion about communicating your boundary...and sticking to it. As a codependent, this is a hard thing for me to do, but it helps me with my relations with others and vice, versa.

From: DennisS
03/30/2008 19:48:00

There are several approaches one could use as responses to inroads such as these. I guess it depends on the strength of your relationship with the well-meaning but misguided soul. Most times a "Thanks, but no thanks" should do the job. Sometimes the "What part of NO don't you understand?" may have to be used - punctuated with the appropriate glare of disapproval.
     The only way another person can control your life is if you let them. Just don't let them -politely but firmly...
Take care,
Dennis


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