i think the key word is to "admit" who of us cares to admit anything. the steps teach me a new way to live. actions to practice in all areas of my life. the first step teaches me to practice admitting my part, my wrongs, and see what is my part. the first step makes life simple. goes right along with the serenty prayer. the serenty to accept things the way they are not as i would have them. and challanges me to see the truth, the things i can change. Me.  not you or the gods. so when someone says "you this and you that". admit my  part and walk on. i have no power over others, institutions. the gods or myself if i pick up a drink or drug. not any of my business if it is yours, or the gods. all i need to do is admit it. the short version. "fuck it"