We began to understand that an attitude or behaivior born out of a shortcoming would never give us the peace of mind we sought, o matter what those "voices-in-our-head" said.

Voices disturbed:
So, whats up, I wonder why
Do you listen to me
Im gonna make you do some freaky sh*t now
Insane, youre gonna die
When you listen to me
Let the living die, let the living die
So, cant you imagine how good going through this will make you feel
I promise, no one will ever know
There will be no chance of you getting caught
They never loved you anyway
So come on, be a man
And do what you are compelled to do

F*ck this voices also told us what to do in order to get rewarded with attention, and love, “I should…clean up my room, eat my vegetables, be quiet, stay in line and get good grades.” Do these things and people will like you, accept you, and love you. Do these things and you will be happy. The Voice echoed all the right rules based on the punishments and rewards stored in memory.
Freud formulated a theory about this in An outline of phsycoanalisis:
A portion of the external world has, at least partially, been abandoned as an object and has instead, by identification, been taken into ego and thus become an integral part of the internal world, this mental agency continues to to carry the funtion which have hitherto been performed by the parents...the ego, gives ordes, judges it and threatens it with punisment, exactly like the parents whose place it has taken...we call this agency the superego and are aware of it in its judicial funtions as our conscience"
This make some sense to a person like me, coming from a dysfuntional family, the need to stop sending those messages that keep me from growing emotionally, those scripts i have in my head about how i belived life should be for me and for others. Ideas, feelings, belifes, ways of thinking, attitudes, opinions, or values with which I was raised, need to stop using them when faced with problems.
How I do this, recovering the child within me, learning to love and accept myself.
Take care of this inerchild who needs to be nurtured, cared for, and loved.
I'm sorry hurt you, negelted you, I forgot about you, ignored you, I made you grow up so fast, but I love you, I'm proud of you, I accept you, we will work to get the help we need.
I promise we will have the fun, and play, go places we alway wanted to go and do all those things we always wanted to to, we will recover those lost years.