"Why am I not good enough??". Man, where were people like Dennis to help me to realize the real value of my worth? -- This is something I used to ask myself, and probably would continue doing so if I hadn't been shown the 12 Steps (this includes getting off my pity pot and doing the work).

Keith and Dennis are right when they say you have to be willing to do the footwork. Moreover, you have to want it more than anything.

Right now, it seems you're trying to analyze your behaviors and self perceptions... This was something I also did in the beginning of my recovery, but instead of letting go of my fears, I slowly learned how to face them by getting honest with myself. This, especially, included things I was afraid to admit. ... And now, I am slowly beginning to like, even value myself...which is weird, because I've NEVER had that!

The key to your own freedom, you already know. I pray you find the strength, the courage and the willingness to use that key to unlock the door to your own self-made prison. Do you want that for yourself?

We are here for you, and we'll love you until you can learn to love yourself...

Maggie -
     "Why am I not good enough??". Who, where, how and when exactly did you find out you not good enough? What perfect voice of authority spoke those misbegotten words? And if perchance somone did, why in God's name would you choose to believe them?
     You and I have a disease that manifests itself in obsessive behavior. Whether it be alcohol, drugs, sex, anger, food, self pity or any of a myriad of ways. Nowhere in the shelves of books that I have read or topics regarding recovery I've researched have I saw anything about a person being not good enough. I have heard about it being too hard, or too much trouble, or taking too much time, or not being enough fun - but never too good for anyone.
     The key to this is you have to want recovery more than anything else in the world. Period. Take the obsession and turn it agianst itself. Talk, walk, live and breathe recovery. Make it foremost in your mind. Remind yourself that you love you (as much as we do) and it is a gift to you - which you deserve. You can even have some of mine....
YFIR,
Dennis
     
     

AS LONG AS YOU'RE BREATHING, THERE'S STILL HOPE. DON'T LEAVE BEFORE THE MIRACLE HAPPENS,A ND KEEP COMING BACK!
--ANGIE FALLOWFIELD

What I am learning is that my problem centers in my thinking...I thought the problem was alcohol, drugs, food, men...The real problem is my thinking and the Twelve Steps of Recovery are helping me to grow and change...check it out...

Love and peace
Angela

The steps of recovery will give you answers! Try working them honestly. They were the key to recovery for nearly all of us who have worked them honestly. Your addictions aren't the problem, only a temporary solution!

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