You Be You-I’ll Be Me
On of the great things about being a coach and being involved with a lot of people, is that you get to listen a lot!
Something that comes through on a regular basis, and I’m likely guilty as well, is that many of us seem to want to “fix” people close to us because they don’t behave “our” way. Wanting to have others live how we want, and conversely, trying to live how we think others want, drives us mad.
There is an old saying around, “Live and Let Live”. May it be ingrained in me today.
You are a unique and talented individual. You are capable of having an abundant life and have a set of strengths and talents that are yours. I want you to be you. I’d love to see you be a person who believes in themselves.
I also realize it is OK to just be me. Frequently I use an image of Popeye in association with work. He represents my philosophy, I am what I am and that’s all that I am. I have grown to like being me, and try to treat “me” like a work in progress, well, but room for improvement.
It is beyond my capacity to change others. Others may listen, weigh, and make changes in their lives. It is them who make the changes, and the only meaningful changes happen when it is done for self. While others may also benefit, only changes I want for me will stick.
I under estimated the power of goals, and their role in letting me be me. I did need help to define certain goals for my life. I revaluate them and check results on a regular basis. In moving towards defined goals, I can be a happier me. My goals are my goals and came from within me.
During a coaching session last night, my client told me why her life was not abundant. She pointed to her significant other. She told me that they have agreed to certain behaviors and HE was not doing what she thought he should do. Funny thing, she is being coached and making change. She is growing a realizing her dreams/goals.
He is living his life as per status quo, and has done nothing demonstrable to make change for him. It appears that he is content with himself at this point in time, and my client has to accept it. He is being him.
Why this example?
If my client is to move to who she wants to be, she must focus on herself and not try to be him!
As we move ahead daily, I’ll do my best to be me, and try to let others be who they are, not what I think they should be.
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