Are You A Friend of You?

In doing an inventory, this was one of the questions I asked myself. I continue to ask it on a regular basis. How would I feel about doing or witnessing certain actions to or being done to a friend? In this context, I’ve inflicted things on myself I’d never wish on another person, and allowed things to happen to me that I’d stop if I saw them being done to a friend!

This was and sometimes continues to be a shocking truth!

As Eleanor Roosevelt is credited with saying, “Friendship with oneself is very important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world”.

I did things that harmed myself; I avoided understanding why I Felt less than; I always knew I did not like time alone with me (phone,radio,TV,etc.), I disliked quiet time. Worst of all, I could not forgive myself for some of the things I did.

I’ve always (and still do) taken comfort in knowing I am a uniquely good friend to my friends. Why couldn’t I be a good friend to me?

My inventory let me see who I was and helped me to understand why. Even at my worst, there was still a presence of some good things, I was never entirely bad.

Each day, I find a way to remind myself of the good, and find away to give myself a small reward for just being me. I often reflect on the words of my favorite philosopher-Popeye- I am what I am and that’s all that I am. New thinking- what I am certainly good enough.

Today, I am a friend to me. I work at taking care of myself so I can truly be there for others.

So back to the question; Are You A Friend To You? If the answer is no, we should talk!

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