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Ego vs. Smarts
Posted On: 09/10/2008 20:02:21

Hi All,
     Yep, I'm out of the cage, with crayons in hand and permission from the boss.
     I was thinking about being "smart" or "dumb". I've been termed as both, individually and collectively on one occasion or another. Before fairly recent times being termed as either I wasn't able to accept gracefully. Usually I'd give some lame excuse or other verbal diversion, depending on the situation.
     When I got into AA there where those that told me you can be too smart for the program, but never too dumb.  I now beg to differ a mite. I really think that success in this program depends on two things; the phrase "If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it..." and Ego. You can really want to be happy, joyous and free, but not willing enough. You can have an ego the size of a case of whiskey and not get past it to admit you can't do it yourself. Exactly what circumstances that have to occur to breed this correct inverse ratio of willingness to ego will probably depend on the person.
     Anyway, the point to this is, the people that came up with this program were not dumb or uneducated. What the did have was the capacity to put their ego in their back pocket and look at things with an awesome sense of humility, realizing that all the good things they had (including their "smarts" and the quality of their sobriety) were not due to to anything they had done. It doesn't matter one whit whether you have a PhD or are a high school dropout - if you have the ability to hold that alcoholic ego in check and are willing - you can have what they had...

Nuff said,
Dennis
   



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09/13/2008 02:59:56

My ego, being as big as an elephant - only it sits between my ears is notorious for 'wanting' more out of life, but never having the 'willingness' to get up off my ass to do something about it.

Amazing what can happens when a choice is made not only by the heart and not with just the head. In other words, being motivated by being sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Awesome post, as usual!



09/12/2008 14:30:14

I agree. I was actually thinking the other day about how I could possibly continue doing what I do when I KNOW all the negative consequences tat will come from it. Then I realised that it isn't really about what you know, it's about what you want. I want to be happy and healthy and do things that I care about ALL the time. This is simply not possible if I decide to keep my disorder. So, I guess, I think anyway, it's just about finding something you want more than you want your addiction...and if the way you go about getting that things are "stupid" then, hey, when you're healthy and happy, who's the stupid one? right?



09/11/2008 19:15:14

MY EGO WENT BYE BYE SOON AS I READ THIS  THANKS
--ANGIE FALLOWFIELD



09/11/2008 18:56:33

Dennis: good stuff and great to see you share. Your always solid and I respect what you have to say!

luv

Keith



09/11/2008 15:02:10

Thanks Dennis,

Keeping my EGO out of the way is a tough upward climb...but climb I must if I want to stay sober!

Have a blessed day
Angela



09/11/2008 08:03:13

My intellect got in my way for a while- (my double edge sword of logic and defense)

and yep they warned me, that it was a simple program. I think I banged myself up

pretty good trying to get through the doors and finally became right sized- Thanks, Nia




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