I was thinking that relationships can be really a difficult thing for me. I spent so much time floating in a sea of alcohol that I never really grew up. As it is said, I stopped my emotional age at 16 or so. I didn't care much for or about people, whether or I wanted to or not - my focus was always redirected back to alcohol - my own little private world.
That was then, this is now. I try hard to listen to people and care very much for for both their problems and insights into mine. Like a pendulum, I have moved away from "not at all" to "very much". Not much balance in this drunk's life.
Tempering my hopefully well meaning concern with the realization that my input may not be received as intended or even the fact that future responses may not be directed to me (even if I am the certer of the universe - now you know, so you don't have to wonder any more) is a task I obviously must take stronger action on. Humility check...
Nuff said,
Dennis