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I have thoroughly enjoyed (and will continue until it’s over) my journey on www.oprah.com through Tolle’s “A New Earth”. I can relate to most of what he’s talking about!

Today, at noon, I attended a meeting based on 12 steps for recovery. It was a new meeting, and on the wall, of the Lutheran church basement, were some principals they have for living. And gosh knows, I’ve read enough Law of this and Power of that, I know of secrets, and a ton of other stuff and have been exposed to the 7 of many things.. 12 steps, church credo and A New Earth and more are consistent.

It struck me sitting there, through every thing we read and study, there is a consistency in the message, and things are pretty straight forward!

What started me on my journey was recovery from alcohol and other addictions. Well, that’s not quite true. The journey started because my wife left me , and a marriage counselor had the audacity to suggest that alcohol may be a problem when I consumed it, and chances were if I didn’t consume, the marriage might be better. That started my recovery journey. And that is true, sort of.

The journey really started when I ACCEPTED, not admitted I had a problem, or problems, was willing to be exclusively responsible for my problems, and actually went out and got the help I needed to recover from what I had been doing to myself. I ACCEPTED I was bankrupt in several areas, particularly spiritually..

Notice I said ACCEPT, not admit, a huge difference.

Along the journey, things have been very clear, and I think every self-help and motivational book I’ve read, including A New Earth, have told me the same basics.

I was born good, not bad. We are not created spiritually flawed.

As I grew, I picked up learning, experience and emotional scars. I accumulated garbage inside. While I enjoyed material success, I was a mess inside.  While being controlling and manipulative in the business arena was OK, when I tried to control the things most important to me, ultimately I failed and others that I care about got hurt. This was the conditioned me.

 I do not control the universe or any section of it, I cannot drive the bus of life, I can exercise effectively control over me.

Something is in control of the “BIG” picture. I know today it’s not me!

Life experiences have taught me, as I started to take my hands off the wheel, that others can exist well without my help, and I’m better off too!! Good things started to happen.

Through a process, I located that good within me, and learned that not only was it within me, but it was within you and all that was around me. And I needed to label it. As it was a power bigger than me that gives Good Orderly Direction, I label it god.

On my journey, I’ve been taught how to stay in touch with this power within, and I’ve learned to trust it. If I work for consciousness with it daily, it grows.

Problems in life don’t go away, I deal with them differently.

I identified my , as Tolle calls them, pain-bodies that hurt internally and caused a hole inside of me that alcohol and other stuff filled. I became conscious of these pain-bodies and their why’s a wears, and by being conscious of them, and once again fully accepting this reality, I deal with them daily and deal with new ones as they happen. By having them in the open, there is very manageable pain inside. Generally minimal.

In not having that internal pain, I am hopeful in the moment, and on an increasing basis, enjoy the gift of serenity.

What does this mean?

If you cut me off on the street while driving, I will likely not flip a bird at you! This is improved behaviour and I am grateful.

And a lot more has happened to increase and maintain hope and serenity.

So folks, simply, ACCEPT what it is that has you think is making you unhappy, resolve to make change, be responsible for the change, deal with the realities of the past and recognize them for what they are, set goals , and move forward.

Most important, realize no matter how far things have gotten off track, there is good within you and around you, and once you awaken to it’s reality, you have a co-pilot for your new life journey!! And coaches make great guides!

I’m grateful for those who shared the church basement with me today and who read from the church credo. I am grateful I was exposed to the 12 steps and other great learning’s. I am most grateful that I could ACCEPT what was going on in me, and grateful I was able to find that good within and that good orderly direction is a part of my life today!

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Attitudes and Limitations
“What we consider our greatest strengths can also be our greatest weaknesses.
Excessive pride in "being able to handle everything," for example, may result in our taking on other people's responsibilities. In "taking over," we often lessen another's desire to meet his or her own obligations.
A boastful "I'll do it myself!" attitude can also mask a desperate feeling of inadequacy. Having a constant drive to prove our worth to others, we may trample on, or ignore, the needs of those around us who are just as eager to exhibit their competency and worth.
What are some other examples of virtues becoming vices?
Determination, to excess, becomes obstinacy and stubbornness. Honesty, when misdirected, is synonymous with gossip and slander. Sympathy and concern, overdone, can cripple and smother”.

 

Some days I go to journal, and there is little there! It is on these days that I seem to get a reading that really sparks something.

In the reading from Hazelden above, I certainly see myself.

There are times I know that I want things for others too much. When I want them more than they do, and I take over directing their lives, I’ve crossed a line. I have found that this has happened over the past few months, and in recognizing it, I have been able to let go.

It is not my job to try and run the lives of others. Staying in touch with my higher power and being responsible for my life is task enough. I am responsible to be there for others, but not to run their lives!

I have long gotten over the “I’ll do it myself”. The work world taught me long ago that there are things at this moment that are quicker to do myself. That being said, on the long haul, if I teach others to do it, and am there to assist their learning, all concerned benefit!

I am not the only one who has “gifts” or talents. My talent in the work world was recognizing this.

I have experienced some of the other things mentioned, particularly honesty turning in to gossip. I’m work in progress.

Funny, yesterday in a conversation with my wife, I mentioned that I have to make sure I move way from extremely negative people. I must make sure that in my own mind and soul, I remain positive.

I am reminded; I am responsible for making today a good day, and growing in positives today!! It is my attitude, and recognizing my limitations, that makes a difference.

 

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At a meeting this morning, a person that I have a lot of time for mentioned that recently I have seemed down.

I certainly have been feeling at best contemplative, and I know giving up smoking has had a role in this. It’s a BI**H of an addiction with its rituals!

That being said, it also struck me that some of my close relationships have been a little off the mark this past week or so, not bad, but not as positive as I like. The learning and reminder, you can’t give away what you don’t have. And the last couple of weeks, while remaining hopeful and serene, I have not felt passion and zest.

I believe in the power of attraction as the main means to connecting with others. I am generally perceptive about the vibes others give off when I meet them or see them enter a room. With some, there is just a natural attraction. The positives in them just shine through.

If I want to be this type of person who attracts others, I’ve got to keep the stuff going on inside of me positive. I can’t give to others what I don’t have myself!

In talking with my friend this morning and talking about where he’s at in his journey, there was a great reminder of where I was at before the journey, triggered by an awakening, started.

Safe to say my ego, and by that I mean false pride, was big. My self-esteem was very low and I was spiritually empty. I had little to give anyone.

Over the journey, I have learned to appreciate the good in me, and love myself for who I am. I have a powerful relationship for a god of my understanding, and live in constant gratitude for the positives that have happened. The gap between ego and self-esteem has narrowed dramatically.

Today I have hope and serenity in abundance that I can give away.

It has been difficult to give away passion and zest, because that is not what I’ve been feeling lately.

I can give away only what I have got, and I am thankful that my lows are never very low! I will ask to have passion rekindled inside, and it will add to the attraction on the outside!

The word and sin sloth have been on my mind.

I’m going to research a bit today, and see where “sloth” is on the radar screen tomorrow. In the mean time, I hope Tiger gets into contention in the Masters today!

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It's Friday, and I have had some quick thoughts back over the week just gone by.
I have now gone two weeks without smoking, and it has been difficult. All the things I warn clients and others about when they let go of an addiction hve happened. The thing I dislike most is the slight feeling of depression that moves in and out without warning. I started smoking when I was about 10, and quit once for a two year period. I think it is natural to grieve over an old habit, like smoking, that is dying.
Yesterday, I did not journal. I was out of here very early, and down to the dentist for a cleaning. I knew I had a wisdom tooth that was just hanging on and periodically causing infection. Yesterday, after the cleaning, that tooth came out.
We have had death touch our family this week. An in-law, 56 years old, a fun lady who melanoma took. My wife, through her own recovery program, has handled this very well, I am grateful I have been able to be there for her.
Wednesday, I went to an interview and was offered an opportunity to work with a company I know well in starting up a new venture tied closely to their existing business. It feels good to have something like this offered, yet it is not an easy decision.
While cash flow from my coaching practise is not at a "comfortable" level, I am enjoying the schooling I am taking, the mentoring I am getting and giving and the growth in my spiritual life. I am doing something I really want to do, focus the learning, ability and experience I have in helping others transform to a more abundant life, a life rich in hope and serenity. My "source" has guided me in this direction since a meditative week in December, and it still feels so right.
Funny, we have been "cash flow challenged" before, and if I listen to that small quiet voice inside, things have a way of working out! Faith- not rational thinking.
As A certified golf nut, I'm thrilled to see the Masters happening. It gives me a sense of renewal, it allows me to see great talent preform in a beautiful setting, and is a clear indicator out local courses, and my home course, will soon be open!
Glad Friday has come this week. It has been a long and busy week and not the most upbeat. Yet I have grown as a person this week, and my higher power is real and with me!

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My daily blog on the journey of recovery is available through the site.

The Life Transformation Coaching business is a real blessing. It gives an ability to touch people who do not want a "public" path.

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