My new years resolution which was my first ever... was to do more for me and less for others. To say no more often. I am a people pleaser and a helper and I have alwys put myself after others.  in order to help them I have put myself out. (liek lettign peoplelive with me that did not have no where to go just  because they needed the help) in the long run i have been an enabler for others to not work, not get there lives straight and on a few occasions an enabler to an alcoholic and addict ex to be sure he was happy as he did not have money for beer or drugs.... This year i said this is my year. I live with my kids, I dont let myself have roomates as they have not helped them selves in the past and i do not let my self have a relationship with a man that is addicted. were i to meet an ex user that was already recovering due to making the choice for him it woud be diffrent. i have too much going on in my life to deal with these thigns that bring me down financially and emotionally though and this year its about me.  I have to be there for me or i will not be here for anyone else.