Codependancy is a recurring them in my life.  I attended ACOA for years but got lazy about finding new groups every time I moved.  My identity has always been determined by my man and my family.  I want to stand on my own two feet, and find my voice for myself.  It's easier for me to think for everyone eles than for myself.  I have to conciously NOT rescue others.  I'm finding meaning for "me"   Learning to not need tons of guidance and encouragement.  I was attracting others just like me and saw how needy I was and decided I won't live life as a human parasite.   My family is very uncomfortable with the changes is in me/boudaries.  And I'm finding this process difficult to say the least.  But I have to GROW and grow up.  Reading books has started me going foreward, but the lessons come in real time-whole different ballgame!  Feels like I'm not makin' any progress, but I am.  Thanks all

jill