So, I am brand new to this website and thought I should give it a try.  I definitely know that I am co-dependent and have decided that I am also an addict.  My addicition is to a guy.  Without going into a lot of detail (unless it's necessary), what do I do?  Except for the emotional ups and downs I go through, how do I take the step and actually admit that I am addicted to him and what do I do from here?

Thanks for listening!  

debbieg -
    Hello and welcome to a good place. You might want to look at http://myrecoveryspace.com/groups/view/id_2/title_courage-to-change/. this is a group pf members that are facing many of the same issues you do. Another way to find out ways to work through you issues os to reach out to the community through a blog. There is also a memeber that may be able to point you to others. His name is Keith: http://myrecoveryspace.com/KeithB. A good friend and he has some great insights.
Take care,
Dennis

For me, when I first came around- a counsellor drew me a picture-

co- dependency he said, is" like a mask- " Healthy relationships are: 2 circles

over lapping gently -along the sides of self... Unhealthy dependencies can be

seen as one circle invading the others space-occluding, blocking, smothering!

When we find ourselves obsessing over another person-it is time to

concentrate on ourselves. We need to bring the focus home, to self.

Strengthen our beings. Our lives. My Sponsor suggested I have no

dating/love " relationships" for at least one year.

It was a hard time, but well worth the commitment!    Nia

As an addict, who is also co-dependent, I tend to try to find something to fill that void inside, the emptiness. I also have an issue of an OBSESSION with a guy. My sponsor told me to ask myself why I am unhappy being alone.  Naturally, I thought DUH! Noone wants to be alone and it feels good to have someone to care about who hopefully also cares about me. But that wasn't her point. Her point was why is Jackie unhappy with just Jackie?... I still haven't found the answers to that question. I still haven't gotten over my OBSESSION with the guy either.

But to answer your question, You have already admitted to being addicted to him by acknowledging it here, in your post. The question is What are we going to do about it?