Finding Help is not easy. It takes the desire to recover, and the motivation to find what works for you. Because of some of the old-fashioned ideas still out there often it's easy to find our motivations crushed and to feel confused.

The First Step is to reach in to yourself. To admit you have a problem that needs addressing and to make the decision to do it. It takes time, don't get down on yourself if it takes you weeks or months to make the first phone call. Once you've made the decision you will do it.

Tell Someone. Find someone in your life you feel you can trust - a friend, a parent, a teacher, a cousin, a penpal, a boyfriend, or a spouse, or even your family doctor... anyone that you think can provide you with support and encouragement. It's not easy to take this step, it's scary and unsure. Their initial reaction may not be what you expect and you should be ready for this. Be prepared to tell them exactly how they can help you and even provide them with some written material on Eating Disorders if you think it will be helpful.

Find a Doctor you feel comfortable with. Everyone is entitled to this. Remember that your doctor is bound by Doctor-patient confidentiality laws and that anything you tell him/her should be kept in the strictest of confidence. Talk to your doctor, make sure he/she is responsive to your needs and don't be afraid to ask questions or inform your doctor of things he/she may not know.

Finding Treatment, Therapy and Support Groups is the next step (and essential) towards permanent recovery. Ask your doctor if he/she can refer you to a therapist who will address your emotional problems. You may even have a friend or family member who can recommend someone. Each doctor will play a role in your recovery -- Therapists should be in charge of your mind, and your doctor should be in charge of your body. You may also want to consider a dietician when you feel ready. You may decide on an inpatient or outpatient program that offers a combination of treatments under one roof. 

Remember that your recovery is about YOU. Don't let anyone push you into things you do not want to do... but also be prepared to keep an open mind about things that may be recommended. If your doctor suggests hospitalization ask yourself why he might and remember that he may see things you are not aware of. Ask him to explain why he recommends things and do research yourself. Also remember that if your nutrition levels are low, or if you have electrolyte imbalances or hormone and vitamin deficiencies it will affect your moods and ability to see things rationally, as well as put you in physical danger. You do not need to be underweight to suffer from these things and you will need to keep in mind that your self-perception is distorted.

Also, try to find support from a friend, spouse or relative. Encouraging words can go a long way. Ask them to read about Eating Disorders so they may better understand how they can support you. If you have a problem finding someone there are many online support options available across the internet, but remember that this will not replace the professional help of a doctor and therapist.