Well, my ex has tried to make himself part of my life, yet again.
For those who don't know the story, I broke up with him in September 2009 (three days before what would've been our 6mo anniversary) after I found out he had tried to cheat on me with my ex-best friend (they had kissed once and I found messages where they were planning on having sex and what they were going to do to each other, etc.). The night I broke up with him, he threatened to kill me. I told him I'd call the cops if he tried anything, and he replied, "Down here, the cops don't take kindly to outsiders. People's bodies disappear and they're never found."
We tried to stay friends & he kept saying he wanted to try and get back together but he needed to get himself straight first. I made the mistake of having post-breakup sex a few times. Well, December 1 (I believe), he called me like four or five different times. I finally called him back and we talked. He was drunk (as usual). I don't even remember how it came up, but he told me that he was dating my ex-best friend and had been since about two weeks after I dumped him. I freaked out and started crying and my roommate grabbed the phone and told him to start acting like a mature 31-year-old and stop F***ing with people's hearts and minds. When I took the phone back, he went off on me and was like "that BI**H disrespected me, if she doesn't stop, I'm gonna come to Lawrence and kill you bitches" I told him I wasn't gonna let him talk to me like that, and when she heard me say that, she started to say something. He heard her and was like "Tell that BI**H to shut her c*cksucker or I'll hang up the phone and start driving up there right now". He then proceeded to explain in detail how he'd kill us. He made sure to tell us he might have a friend do it so that the cops wouldn't look at him. I told him never to talk to me again. Three days later I decided to file a police report.
A week later, he texted me saying he was sorry (although he never specified what he was sorry for). Then he sent me another text saying he'd pay me the $200 he owed me. I didn't respond. I filed another police report.
Two days later, he attempted to break into my apartment. At that point, I moved into the Domestic Violence shelter. I lived there for about a month because he kept attempting to break into my apartment. While I was there, with their help and support, I filed a Protection from Stalking Order. When the officers went to serve him, they arrested him on two outstanding DUI warrants, which was interesting. They didn’t have to arrest him on the warrants, only serve him the restraining order, and they were all drinking buddies with him, so I was REALLY surprised when they did arrest him. He ended up spending Christmas in jail, and during that time, he three-way called me to yell at me to try and get me to drop the restraining order. I filed yet another police report.
Anyway, it seemed like things were calming down and that he was going to leave me alone. Turns out it was just because he was in jail. But after he got out, he’s attempted to break into my apartment multiple times. I’ve filed multiple police reports.
Well, the other day, I went to check my e-mail and he had sent me an e-mail. He hadn’t written anything, just posted a link in it. I filed another a police report, and now I’m waiting to find out if they’re gonna press charges or not. I really want them to because I’m sick of his s**t and want him in jail. I’m just nervous that they won’t, since it wasn’t a very major offense. Even though the judge SPECIFICALLY said “no e-mail” Officer Barta (the RO, who happened to be my High School Resource Officer) told me that odds are they won’t press charges because it wasn’t a very major offense. He told me he agreed that he should be arrested because he did violate the PFS, but he told me that he just wanted to give me a heads-up so that I wouldn’t be upset if they don’t press charges.
Anyway...I don’t know, I guess I’m just ranting. If you guys could keep me in your thoughts, it’d be greatly appreciated. I’m going to contact the DA’s office and ask to speak with the prosecutor and talk to them and tell them I want to press charges and whatnot. But yeah…if you could just pray for me that this will all work out and he’ll stay the h*ll? out of my life once and for all, that’d be awesome.
Hope everyone is doing well!
Lots of love,
Missy <3
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