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Posted On 01/15/2010 16:18:30 by KeithB

ACTING ON LIFE'S STAGE!

With the fullness of time and the wisdom of hindsight, I now realize clearly that I spent much of my life playing a "character" that would please others. How many, upon reflection, know this to be true about themselves.

How do you play your roles?

"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way people think things are." -- Epicetus. This was likely the approach I took to my existence. The way things are (reality) became something I consciously was in denial about; I cared truly about what you thought.

When we are basically unconscious, we live according to social roles. We perform as sons and daughters, mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, employers and employees, as society expects us to.

As we grow in awareness, we gain the freedom to bring our own unique perspectives to these roles. We can express ourselves authentically and creatively, without letting our roles dictate how we should behave.

Those roles, the things I am in life, did not change. Son, father, grandfather, friend, husband, confidant and more, all remained. With the process of co-creative life recovery, how I played those roles (authentically) changed and changes for the better as the journey continues. I enjoy a new freedom today, a freedom based on accepting being the best me I can be is just fine and my perspectives have value and are OK. I live in truth with myself and the higher power I have frequent conscious contact with today.

We all are actors on life's stage. I have gone through a transformation that allows me to play the role of authentic Keith, and I no longer have to act a false role as well as produce and direct my life. Relief with a new found peace and serenity and a strong sense of hope.

I would love to read your thoughts about this here or at www.hopeserenity.ca,

"Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinion of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth." -- Katherine Mansfield

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From: findingmyself73

01/18/2010 07:27:59

I know how difficukt it is to get out of playing that role. But I am slowly learning that I do not have to be anyone other than myself. And that I am ok. A very hard lesson to learn and sometimes I find myself falling into that pleasing bit again but then I just keep telling myself "just be yourself, your best is good enough" and a lot of prayer has helped me as well.

Great blog...thanks

From: DennisS

01/16/2010 09:00:49

Keith -

Living the lie. Doing those things that we thought others expected of us. To the outside world, it was ("was" being a very operative word for this drunk) like being a reed in the wind, bending whatever way the wind was blowing. But churning inside with all the crazy thoughts of a drunk - that didn't fit into any of those little niches that I thought life tried to force me into. Those roles of son, brother, father, husband, co-worker. all poisoned by the inability to emotionally express myself. Emotionally stunted by the two prong attack of alcoholism, Fueled by my obesession and allergy.

Today is a bit different. Today I am not only able to live as these people, but because I now know why I need to be able to think and act in a manner consistent with a solid moral foundation. I can express myself in my dealings with life in a manner that is both sane and loving. I can turn to a God that has that same sane and loving moral foundation. And He does not move whatever way the wind is blowing.

For me to do otherwise is to invite the insanity back into my life. No thanks....

Hugs,

Dennis

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