Hook up with someone who has done them-female- and get working the steps like your life depended on it! It does if you want a life! Addiction is addiction, take the trip to freedom from YOUR addiction that "we" have taken, and don't do it half heartedly. It works if YOU work it.

luv

12 steps are a wonderous journey- the inventory you take teaches you about yourself and how you have been operating in 

this world-your 'patterns' !sharing the inventory is only scary until

you realise you are not alone in your disease- "terminal

uniqueness" is a fear without any real basis!

once we get beyond 'projecting' about how dark and

dangerous the journey could be-we find relief, when we

are honest ,open, and willing!  Blessings, Nia

I tried everything else BUT the 12 steps, and I stayed stuck in my head and stuck in my misery until I had nowhere to turn. I tried religion, therapy, pychiatric medications, drugs, alcohol, relationships, men, whatever. Give at a shot! What have you got to lose....couldn't hurt, might help- that's my theory

Big hugs sista gurl,

Jessie

God is everywhere... Not just in a church. In my experience, and that is exactly what it is just my experience and my opinions. Church is mainly for fellowship. I can find fellowship in the rooms of any 12 step fellowship. I'm not into cliques, threats of damnation, hearing about how every single church member that isn't a member of the same denomintaion as the one I'm sitting in at the moment is going to go to hell. The only church I've ever founf that comes close to practicing the same concepts as the fellowships of the 12 steps was the unity church. They even teach meditation, they are open to everything from Christianity to Judiasm, Buddhism, Muslim... Everything. The simple fact is God is right there in your heart if you allow him to be. Whether you're in church or not. As for eating disorders, it is an addiction, just like drugs and oh yeah, alchohol is a drug. We are all addicts, regardless of what are choice of distraction may be. Anytime we find ourselves using something outside of ourselves to try and feel better inside, we are active addicts. If OA doesn't work for you or you can't find a sponsor there try another fellowship. The steps, are the steps, are the steps, no matter the name of the fellowship. Anyway that's enough rambling from me. Take Care, Bob 

If I always do, what I always did. I will always get, what I always got.Try the steps!!

Many OA groups are excellent fellowships, and those 12 simple steps can lead to a far better life. All it takes is powerlessness and the willingness to change for membership. Try it - you may like it...

Dennis