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Posted On 03/26/2009 20:43:42 by listen2theflame

I am thankful for all of you giving me support, I took a week and did a lot of thinking. I need to work me, I can not work someone else. I am working on being more positive about everything.

I found out some interesting things about myself and my husband. The house he has been staying at I ASSUMED he was the with the chick from the affair. Well to my surprise she is with another man and they bought a place together. My husband has been working on buying this place for a year now, all the while I did not know this, so I ASSUMED he was still cheating. I accussed, yelled, believed others, never went with my own gut until it was too late....

I found comfort in being the victim. I begged God for a sign that I was wrong in this part of marriage termoil. Out of the blue a friend called me at work just to say "hello"    I have not spoken to this person in almost a year. As we talked about this and that she says "hey remember that chick - you know who I mean," I said "but of course," she says " she's with some guy now, I heard they are engaged, they just bought this huge home together, she moved out of that other house and is selling it.".......       After we hung up I sat for hours by myself, talking to God. I called my husband and told him it was going to be okay, I loved him and I forgave myself and him, and I don't want to know anything from yesterday and beyond, I want to only know about today. Can I tell you I had the most relaxed, beautiful conversation with my husband that I have had in a very longg time...........

 

Thank you all for sending me your words of inspiiration, it helps so very much and it so appriciated!!!!

 



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From: listen2theflame
03/27/2009 17:17:44

Thanks, Counselling, he won't go.....



From: KeithB
03/27/2009 17:03:35

Great learning. Continuing to grow yourself and changing the things you can takes courage. Some "couples" counselling can also help!

luv



From: listen2theflame
03/26/2009 21:19:06

 Thanks very much. I don't know if we will work things out in our marriage, however, I do know I feel so much better telling my husband what I needed to. Hearing a non deffenssive side of my husband was really nice.....


 



From: DennisS
03/26/2009 21:05:55

Yep, I done that a few times. It's pretty much taught me to assume nothing - and question what I see. Good progress...


Dennis





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