well I got through our lil family 'crisis' without totally blowing a gasket, acting like a idiot or crying til my face turned red & my eyes swelled up!!! i just need to remember that i am really not in charge, that i have to let my HP do his work & have faith that everything happens the way it does for a reason. i was sad for chelsea & tommy and as much as i would like to keep them from pain & harm there are just some things that i cant change. my daughter is smart & strong, i will be there for her when she needs me. tommy will also find his way. i am very grateful for the support & encouragement i receive here at this site from all my new friends ... i've said before this site is like hugs after a meeting.