I haven't blogged about my marriage.
Short story: My husband and I have lived a very open relationship. The past five years we have lived separately (because of his work and family issues), only seeing each other every other - or every two weekends. He lives north, over 4 hours away.
His work and his life up north has been kept separate. Although I've invited him to share in my Recovery - he tells me that I can "keep the AA thing". He's shared nothing in my recovery.
For the first time in over 10 months, we finally talked. This talk will lead us into a discussion about whether we remain married or not. We acknowledge that we share nothing in common. We know that to "move"" in with each, would destroy our friendship. Most of this knowledge came since I've been in Recovery.
He does recognize the changes in me and tells me he so proud of me. That the first time in over 14 years he can see how I am more comfortable with who I am.
I shared that I worry the grandchildren I love won't be around me. See, my daughter is actually my "step"daughter, therefore, the grandchildren are technically my "step" grandchildren. He assures me that he will not let anything change that relationship. He tells me that "if" anything happens to our marriage, that he feels I am his bestfriend and we will always share holidays and birthdays together with the grandbabies.
There's obviously more to this story - but this is the short of it...
My Recovery has caused some lifestyle changes. With those changes, many are effected. It may not be what I wanted - or expected - but, it's definitely something in God's plan as I continue to work my program.
