Do You Understand Coaching and The Benefits To You?
- A review for me too, and why I know it’s my life purpose.
Man, life has been busy and with the different holidays, a little confused over the last few weeks. Days go by, and I wonder where time goes, and sometimes I am guilty of losing focus.
Tuesday was school day, and what a great lecture it was. It was a good reminder to me why I elected to “coach” for a living as opposed to other options, and what the fundamentals of coaching are.
There are 7 principles the coaching profession, in one form or another adheres to.
- Maintain a commitment to SUPPORT the client.
- Build the coaching relationship on truth, openness and trust.
- The client is responsible for the results they are generating.
- The client is capable of much better results than they are currently getting.
- Focus on what the client thinks and experiences.
- Clients can generate their own perfect solutions.
- The coaching conversations are based on equality.
When coaching, an ideal session involves the client speaking about 80% of the time, it’s all about them. The coach inputs when the client gives permission, and the coach accepts the client for who they are and does not judge!
Traditional therapy, as was noted my an esteemed doctor therapist who is part of my class, is moving more and more to this model, and I think it is good learning for people involved in 12 step programs. We can find the solutions if properly directed.
I understand today why my higher power stopped me from doing what I wanted to do in the early stages of recovering my life. I was so happy with my own success; I wanted to “fix” the world. For those who have tried to “fix” me, I know they found it futile. As I practice my profession today, I must remember this. I can’t fix.
Much of my coaching is based on the 12 step program, and for those who are horrified and not aware, the 12 step program was based on the teachings of the Oxford Group who based their stuff on who knows what. Go back far enough; it all comes from the same source.
With a lot of help, and much of it from professionals, I was guided to find a way of life that was mentally hygienic, taught me balance, and has lead to a richness of life I could not believe could happen to me. Support and not being judged were keys. I had the answers within, I just had to discover them and be directed. In finding them, I can live them and own them.
I am thankful that I was able to discover a purpose for my life, and that through coaching; I have the joy of watching lives transform. I have watched many do major turn a rounds, not just in living free from addictions, but in regaining self-esteem, finding a spiritual reality, building richer relationships, and yes, even some getting career progress and the material trappings that go with it. No one said that we had to be poor; I do know principles must come before material things. They can exist together!
Today was a day of growth. Not only did I attend lecture and work with a couple of clients, I was the guest on a Blog Talk Radio show hosted by Gary Glasscock and focused on spirituality. It was fun, and we talked to the role spirituality (not religion) has in recovering and abundant life full of daily hope and serenity. Feel free to look up the venue and listen. You’ll love Gary’s drawl!!
There are challenges to face later, but a good day to get my focus back on my chosen direction!
Hopefully, not only for me, but for you, coaching is better understood. Look at what you spend on “stuff”. How much do you invest in finding a life you love??
Tags: Addictions Recovery Coach.Life Transformation Coach
