Free Rent In Your Head?
Resentments can kill
As we look at making amends, I was reminded again today about resentments.
If I’m ever going to return to my old ways of dealing with the less pleasant side of life, it will likely be due to a resentment that I allow to remain unresolved. If my head is an apartment building, resentments could be like a destructive tenant who dwells there without paying rent.
In doing my inventory, I found a few incidents of resents that I had carried for a long time. Not only were they directed towards people, but some lingering ones were carried against a church and school! Hard to believe I let them linger and fester so long. In a way, my resentment with a church allowed me to go spiritually bankrupt.
There were, are and will be people and things that do me wrong. I have to deal with them at the time. I have a fault at times at trusting too much, and in the wrong people. To put it bluntly, there are times I have had my teeth kicked in for this. There are people who have deliberately set out to do me harm. Over the last few years, I have learned to feel sympathy for them.
I remember when, and don’t want to go back to, a time where I would carry grudges and plan, and sometimes carry out, retribution. I was obsessed at times about squaring things up, it kept me awake, made me miserable and was definitely a sign of some insanity in my mind; certainly not good mental hygiene!
In remembering when, I can feel sympathy for those carrying the burdens I used to allow myself to carry!
Don’t get me wrong, this is not a turn the other cheek and get slapped again. I am assertive where assertion is needed, and do respect myself. In not carrying resentments, that does not say I wish the person and overabundance of good luck.
When I turn things over, the incident and person does not waste the valuable time and space in my head. They are evicted, and no rent is due.
In making amends, and doing my list, there were people on the list that had done me some bad turns, and still it was important that they be on my list and I do what had to be done.
For my journey was for a better life for me, a life with hope and serenity, a life with abundance and happiness and free from mood altering addictions.
Resentments are likely the most hazardous feelings we can carry inside of us. I know that. Have you got any lingering resentments living rent free in your head?
If so, get them down on paper as a start point!
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