In the work I do, and in dealing with people searching for a better life, at start of transforming life, many love to blame “people, places and things” for their problems. I know, because I was guilty. “If only”, “if so and so didn’t”, “I wasn’t responsible”, “it was so and sos’ fault/job/responsibility”, “if they hadn’t of said/done”, “they/nobody understands me (I’m unique)” and on and on. We bear the burdens and go to our own cross! Others were responsible; at least in part.

I’ve been saving the little gem that follows for a while. I love it when others put, what I feel, so well in writing!!
No one likes a martyr.
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.  Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.
It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.

For years I have believed the only real place to get sympathy consistently is in a dictionary. I’ve learned it is found between “s..t and syphilis. I have learned and coined the phrases that “if you look at the world through an a..hole, all you see is s..t.” These things aren’t fancy, but good truths!

So you’ve got problems or problem people in your life? Want to hear all about mine? No? A real surprise.

Join me on a journey where we don’t accept martyrs and won’t be one.

For me, I choose conscious contact, meditation and acting in the moment. I choose to be responsible for taking care of me! Let’s move it forward!!

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