I have thoroughly enjoyed (and will continue until it’s over) my journey on www.oprah.com through Tolle’s “A New Earthâ€. I can relate to most of what he’s talking about!
Today, at noon, I attended a meeting based on 12 steps for recovery. It was a new meeting, and on the wall, of the Lutheran church basement, were some principals they have for living. And gosh knows, I’ve read enough Law of this and Power of that, I know of secrets, and a ton of other stuff and have been exposed to the 7 of many things.. 12 steps, church credo and A New Earth and more are consistent.
It struck me sitting there, through every thing we read and study, there is a consistency in the message, and things are pretty straight forward!
What started me on my journey was recovery from alcohol and other addictions. Well, that’s not quite true. The journey started because my wife left me , and a marriage counselor had the audacity to suggest that alcohol may be a problem when I consumed it, and chances were if I didn’t consume, the marriage might be better. That started my recovery journey. And that is true, sort of.
The journey really started when I ACCEPTED, not admitted I had a problem, or problems, was willing to be exclusively responsible for my problems, and actually went out and got the help I needed to recover from what I had been doing to myself. I ACCEPTED I was bankrupt in several areas, particularly spiritually..
Notice I said ACCEPT, not admit, a huge difference.
Along the journey, things have been very clear, and I think every self-help and motivational book I’ve read, including A New Earth, have told me the same basics.
I was born good, not bad. We are not created spiritually flawed.
As I grew, I picked up learning, experience and emotional scars. I accumulated garbage inside. While I enjoyed material success, I was a mess inside. While being controlling and manipulative in the business arena was OK, when I tried to control the things most important to me, ultimately I failed and others that I care about got hurt. This was the conditioned me.
I do not control the universe or any section of it, I cannot drive the bus of life, I can exercise effectively control over me.
Something is in control of the “BIG†picture. I know today it’s not me!
Life experiences have taught me, as I started to take my hands off the wheel, that others can exist well without my help, and I’m better off too!! Good things started to happen.
Through a process, I located that good within me, and learned that not only was it within me, but it was within you and all that was around me. And I needed to label it. As it was a power bigger than me that gives Good Orderly Direction, I label it god.
On my journey, I’ve been taught how to stay in touch with this power within, and I’ve learned to trust it. If I work for consciousness with it daily, it grows.
Problems in life don’t go away, I deal with them differently.
I identified my , as Tolle calls them, pain-bodies that hurt internally and caused a hole inside of me that alcohol and other stuff filled. I became conscious of these pain-bodies and their why’s a wears, and by being conscious of them, and once again fully accepting this reality, I deal with them daily and deal with new ones as they happen. By having them in the open, there is very manageable pain inside. Generally minimal.
In not having that internal pain, I am hopeful in the moment, and on an increasing basis, enjoy the gift of serenity.
What does this mean?
If you cut me off on the street while driving, I will likely not flip a bird at you! This is improved behaviour and I am grateful.
And a lot more has happened to increase and maintain hope and serenity.
So folks, simply, ACCEPT what it is that has you think is making you unhappy, resolve to make change, be responsible for the change, deal with the realities of the past and recognize them for what they are, set goals , and move forward.
Most important, realize no matter how far things have gotten off track, there is good within you and around you, and once you awaken to it’s reality, you have a co-pilot for your new life journey!! And coaches make great guides!
I’m grateful for those who shared the church basement with me today and who read from the church credo. I am grateful I was exposed to the 12 steps and other great learning’s. I am most grateful that I could ACCEPT what was going on in me, and grateful I was able to find that good within and that good orderly direction is a part of my life today!
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