Attitudes and Limitations
“What we consider our greatest strengths can also be our greatest weaknesses.
Excessive pride in "being able to handle everything," for example, may result in our taking on other people's responsibilities. In "taking over," we often lessen another's desire to meet his or her own obligations.
A boastful "I'll do it myself!" attitude can also mask a desperate feeling of inadequacy. Having a constant drive to prove our worth to others, we may trample on, or ignore, the needs of those around us who are just as eager to exhibit their competency and worth.
What are some other examples of virtues becoming vices?
Determination, to excess, becomes obstinacy and stubbornness. Honesty, when misdirected, is synonymous with gossip and slander. Sympathy and concern, overdone, can cripple and smotherâ€.
Some days I go to journal, and there is little there! It is on these days that I seem to get a reading that really sparks something.
In the reading from Hazelden above, I certainly see myself.
There are times I know that I want things for others too much. When I want them more than they do, and I take over directing their lives, I’ve crossed a line. I have found that this has happened over the past few months, and in recognizing it, I have been able to let go.
It is not my job to try and run the lives of others. Staying in touch with my higher power and being responsible for my life is task enough. I am responsible to be there for others, but not to run their lives!
I have long gotten over the “I’ll do it myselfâ€. The work world taught me long ago that there are things at this moment that are quicker to do myself. That being said, on the long haul, if I teach others to do it, and am there to assist their learning, all concerned benefit!
I am not the only one who has “gifts†or talents. My talent in the work world was recognizing this.
I have experienced some of the other things mentioned, particularly honesty turning in to gossip. I’m work in progress.
Funny, yesterday in a conversation with my wife, I mentioned that I have to make sure I move way from extremely negative people. I must make sure that in my own mind and soul, I remain positive.
I am reminded; I am responsible for making today a good day, and growing in positives today!! It is my attitude, and recognizing my limitations, that makes a difference.
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