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Posted On 03/30/2008 12:23:03 by puddinpop

I am upset about not going to church, but, my cousin and her husband try to set me up with a boyfriend.  They would like to see me get married again. (going on for almost 3 years) Jimmy died almost 10 years ago.  Nine days after his death my boss lady tried to introduce me to a man.  I walked off the job that day.  Just for that day.   I have attented several churchs and it is the same, someone tries to set me up with a man.  I also stopped going to AA Meetings because of the same thing.  Something is wrong with this picture, the picture is me.  I have prayed and cried before my LORD and I still get upset with family or friends that try to control my life.  My children are not involved in this, thank GOD.



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From: puddinpop
06/06/2008 17:14:59


TheNewMe63 wrote:


I go to woman's meetings mostly, just for the fact that some guys are always in my face at mixed meetings, mostly woman friends in my life today...........I lso had a hard time with hugging men and I set my boundaries with it today..........Sue C
I finally got the courage to tell my cousin to back off.  Not in those words.  I told her I was not going to her church because she (she is 75)keeps trying to set me up with a man.  I told her it is not her decision to decide what is best for me. We talked about me not dating or having a man in my life about 15 minutes. She was a little upset with me when we finally got off the phone.  I DID NOT feel guilty and for that I am truly thankful.

From: TheNewMe63
06/06/2008 16:38:07

I go to woman's meetings mostly, just for the fact that some guys are always in my face at mixed meetings, mostly woman friends in my life today...........I lso had a hard time with hugging men and I set my boundaries with it today..........Sue C

From: puddinpop
04/27/2008 10:15:33

Thanks again gurl.  Am learning my way around Recovery.  Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
GOD Bless
Puddinpop


You don't need a man to be 'complete'. I empathize with your disappointment with people's interference about where you're coming from. However, Dennis offers a good suggestion about communicating your boundary...and sticking to it. As a codependent, this is a hard thing for me to do, but it helps me with my relations with others and vice, versa.


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From: DisgruntledGurl
03/31/2008 04:53:47

You don't need a man to be 'complete'. I empathize with your disappointment with people's interference about where you're coming from. However, Dennis offers a good suggestion about communicating your boundary...and sticking to it. As a codependent, this is a hard thing for me to do, but it helps me with my relations with others and vice, versa.

From: DennisS
03/30/2008 20:48:00

There are several approaches one could use as responses to inroads such as these. I guess it depends on the strength of your relationship with the well-meaning but misguided soul. Most times a "Thanks, but no thanks" should do the job. Sometimes the "What part of NO don't you understand?" may have to be used - punctuated with the appropriate glare of disapproval.
     The only way another person can control your life is if you let them. Just don't let them -politely but firmly...
Take care,
Dennis

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