My life has been a crazy result of abuse.  all my actions all my disfunctions all of my crazyness...Fuck what people say.  I'm with you.  I'm pretty pissed myself.  i've been denyed even a "normal" sex life.  yeah, i've got some good songs out of it but Lord i sure paid for em'     Mark     *HUGS*

I know how you feel. There are a lot of unsympathetic people in the world but there are still some good people in the world.

Being able to use your voice is a wonderful freedom. I was very happy when I was finally able to use mine. I was abused as a child, and right on through to my adult life, and I find that people do not want to accept what is. They assume that if we sweep the problem under the carpet it will disappear, well it doesn't.

When people say awful things to you, don't put any stock in their ignorance, because it will only make you angry and frustrated and they will have served their purpose. Instead say..."You know what I am better than this, I am a survivor, and nothing you say will ever bring me down..." and go along your merry way.

Talk, Vent, Do what you must so you can heal...it is about you, not them.

Shannon

Hi Dusty and Keith,

I think I hear what you're saying. 

A lot of survivors have to deal with "suck it up, buttercup".  I like that, Dusty...that's good.  I was angry that survivors have to deal with that on top of everything elso.

But also, I was never allowed a voice growing up.  I'm finally finding it, and it seems like people are telling me to shut up about it.  I'm not going give graphic details here, I do know that this isn't the place; so no, I'm not going to shut up.  Part of MY process is sharing with other people.

....So there.

ROFLMAO

One more thing, whilst i have a soap box....I dont get the '"feel better cause other people hurt as well"logic.

Sounds like suck it up buttercup wrapped in a bow if you ask me....I think frankly that's BS...and bad advice....,makes me want to snap my crayons...

cheers

Dusty..now back to radio silence

Well i beleive reflection is a great quality to possess but a heavy weight to burden. Im in the same boat and just cant shake it ----- walk a mile in my shoes so to speak.

I feel your pain...which is what it is---not to be constructed by onlookers as an empower / sponsor for lack of accountability...its just that..not easy.

In the absence of many trustworthy people' an impartial ear can lighten the load and if only for alittle while - that's ok.

So keep reach'en for the rafters and swingen to fences...your voice is yours..

Be well...............Dusty

You'll never forget it but you can learn to accept it, process it and not let it occupy alot of space in your head. You're not alone in having experienced it!

luv