I don't really have a favorite type of music, I have favorite songs. And that just depends on my mood.

Action movies, thrillers.

I loved the "Dresden Files" books. I've read them all. Can't really get focused on a book right now.

World of Warcraft. Going to have to get some more, and soon...

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My name is Tamara. My friends call me Tam. I am married to an alcoholic. I am in therapy for love addiction, and codependency. Great mix, huh? Alcoholic and love-aholic. We had some good years, but this weekend I am moving out. Our daughter is coming with me. She's almost 6. I have found this inner part of me that I was certain was gone. It feels good to make decisions based on what I want. It feels good to be able to go somewhere and not worry what he's thinking, or if he's getting made because the line is too long, or there's too many people, or any hundred of other things it could be. It's nice to live for me, and for my little girl.

I still have these moments where I can feel my recovered strength slipping. I want to save him. I want him with me. I want him to love me. But it's just not possible. I don't think I could ever be "healthy" with him. Even if he did get sober. He is a black hole of misery, and he completely overwhelms me. But I love him still.

So I am moving...I am taking the necessary steps to move my life forwards. I'm scared. But I feel liberated. I feel hopeful...

I want to thank everyone for putting their lives out her for all to read. It is helpful for me to talk with folks on both sides of alcoholism and codependency. I'm glad to know I am not the only one...

Lots of things. Strawberries, soft towels, the smell of fresh cut grass. I love my daughter.

My main pet peeve is twisted phone cords, they just irritate the ever-livin' outta me. But I don't like most vegetables. I don't like who I am right now.