I have been co-dependant for most of my life. Oddly enough I was a loner because I wouldn't give anyone a chance to reject me. When I got married I became co dependant on my husband. We were married for thirty years. He died from cancer two years ago. I find myself trying to please him even now, He was a perfectionist and I just cannot do what he did. I feel so hopeless, so much a failure. Can anyone help me?

I am a widow who has two grown children and four grandchildren. As I mentioned before, I have been co-dependant for most of my life. I am very insecure.

I have also been the victim of verbal and physical abuse. It started about two years before my husband became sick . I have had an anger problem because I never had a chance to work this out with him. I am also angry with God for taking him.

I am a born again Christian. Right now I am not employed. I have been too depressed to do much of anything.

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