If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
• We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
• We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
• We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
• No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
• That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
• We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
• Self-seeking will slip away.
• Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
• Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
• We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
• We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
• Are these extravagant promises? We think not.
• They are being fulfilled among us-sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.
• They will always materialize if we work for them.

Lord of the rings, The Bible, The SAA Green Book,Patrick Carnes, Harry Potter, Jasper FForde, any good fantasy writer like Christopher Paolini,Terry Brooks,Robin Hobb or Anne McCaffrey, historical whodunnits and Emergent Theology...yeah ok my name is Cara and I am a book addict.

Slushy romantic historical/comedy,Sc-Fi/Fantasy(but not horror),good psycho thrillers, anything quirky and different, Britmovies.

Church, reading, writing, dancing, decorating, gardening, photography, cooking and of course recovery.

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Married with grown up kids, I am a sex addict and have been in recovery since winter 2006 when I figured out what was wrong. My main difficulties are listed below. Not young but older than I look and much older than I feel.

My sobriety date is when I first walked into a meeting and I have been going ever since. It has been the most incredible journey of my life and I have met some amazing people along the way.

I could say that recovery has turned my life upside down but actually it has turned it the right way up, the dust will be settling for some time but in the meantime I am deeply grateful for the blessings which have been poured out over me.
THANK YOU GOD

But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. 2 Cor 4:7-11

My outer circle:

Achievement
Asking for giving and receiving affection
Non sexual friendship
Belief in myself
Rewarding myself in healthy ways
Clear boundaries
Celebrating my sexuality within my marriage
Being gentle with myself
Forgiving myself
Having fun
Being creative
Loving and caring for myself and my body
Admitting needs and asking for help
Making my own recovery a priority
Service
And last but not least,
PASSING ON THE MESSAGE OF RECOVERY

My inner circle behaviours:

Sexual relationships outside my marriage
Blatantly intentional sexual communication with men
Indulging in my own particular perversion

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